Letters To Friends

Dec 14, 2023

Humaning Is Hard

Hey, Friend! Last time I'll mention my book (probably until next December, when it will be on my mind again, because… would-be-due-date)....

Dec 13, 2023

I Only Met Her Once

Hey, Friend. In my household I am not allowed to share any new ideas after 9pm. It's just a bit too late for new ideas, according to...

Dec 12, 2023

Couldn't Find My Car

Hey, Friend. Psst! Did you get an email from me yesterday? If you didn't, it might be because it was sent from a new email address:...

Dec 11, 2023

I Have Always Wanted Children

Hey, Friend! I have always wanted children. lol That's a big fat lie. I have never wanted children. Having kids seemed like a chore that...

Dec 5, 2023

I Will Comment On Your Body

Hey, Friend. In recent years, the phrase “We do not comment on other people's bodies” has made its rounds - and for good reason. It...

Dec 1, 2023

Cancelled Things, And Expensive Champagne

Hi, Friend. What did you do for your most recent big birthday? Your 30th? 50th? 80th? Was it a big deal party? Trip? [it’s a trip for me,...

Nov 23, 2023

Coffee Beans, And How I Think About Black Friday 2023

Hi, Friend. “At least we had the good coffee today” says this journal entry in one of my notebooks. There are almost seventy of them in...

Nov 21, 2023

I Had One Job

Hi, Friend. I was 21 years old, and I literally had ONE job to do, as a teaching assistant to an undergraduate psychology course at my...

Nov 15, 2023

Watch This By Yourself In A Dark Room

Hi, Friend. If you have been living under a rock, or have small children - which.. let’s admit - often feels exactly like living under a...

Nov 7, 2023

How To Vet A Stranger

Hi, Friend. About a year ago, my friend Alisa launched a Substack newsletter called Good People, Good Places - documenting stories that...

Nov 2, 2023

I Couldn’t Afford Therapy

Hi, Friend. The first time I decided to get therapy, I couldn’t afford it. It was 2am, and I was feverishly Googling for JUST the right...

Oct 30, 2023

Anyone Told You To Try A Cold Bath Yet?

Hey, Friend. Anyone told ya to try a cold bath yet? For.. you know… …. everything. Faster metabolism, smarter brain. To cure depression,...

Oct 27, 2023

Kids Used To Hate Me

Hi, Friend. Kids like me. "So what, Kate?", you might be thinking. "Kids like lots of people". "Kids also like fart jokes, and putting...

Oct 25, 2023

The Hardest Part Is Not What You Think It Is

Hi, Friend. I could not hear what he was saying because of my own sobbing.Finally, I slow down my breath to make it out: “Ok, ok. Stop...

Oct 17, 2023

Can You Get Out Of Bed In The Morning? Fantastic. You Are Fine!

Hi, friend. "Do you cut yourself?" That's what the slightly annoyed woman on the other end of the phone line wanted to know. I was...

Oct 12, 2023

Here, Honey, Try This (Said In My Mom Voice)

Hey, Friend. I think of all humans as solar-powered. Solar panels harness the energy of the sun to produce power. When it’s dark and...

Oct 3, 2023

Where Do You Get Your Haircuts, And The Tangible Evidence Of Our Work

Hi, Friend. I’m waiting for my coffee at a local bakery - they are known for their butter tarts, and their coffee is just ok, but it’s...

Sep 26, 2023

Bitch, Please: Meal Planning For Lazy Rebels Who Hate Structure

Hi, Friend. Let's talk about meal planning. And how it's stupid. Lolz. I am kidding. Sort of. A colleague at work told me once about this...

Sep 19, 2023

She Was Allergic To French Fries (Gimme A Break)

Hey, Friend. Before I delve into our topic today, I want to share one of my favorite interviews I have ever given on a podcast. Those are...

Sep 13, 2023

100-Mile Experiment - What I Learned From Eating Only Local Foods For 30 Days

HEY, Friend. This week I’m sharing some takeaways from my 100-mile experiment - all the things I learned from eating only local foods for...